FLIRTING: if you wanna sell it… put it in the window

Flirting doesn’t come naturally to everyone, as one of my dearest friends used to say, “If you wanna sell it, you gotta put it in the window”. If you’re tired or beaten down by online dating OR the dating scene in general, it’s OK to take a break. But don’t STOP being a friendly / fun person, don’t take a break from smiling or being sweet. Those characteristics are important for anyone — whether your single or not.

Smile
Seriously, it doesn’t take much effort, just push those muscles on the side of your mouth up & BOOM, you’re smiling! A well played smile can potentially open the door for more.

Eye Contact
If you don’t look at people – they’re less likely to look at you.

Be Alone
It’s not easy to approach someone in a group so next time you’re meeting friends, make yourself APPROACHABLE. Arrive 30 minutes early, grab a seat at the bar, order a martini & put your phone away. Practice being friendly, chat with the bartender, watch whatever is on TV…

Ask Questions
Strike up a conversation with someone (& it doesn’t have to be a member of the opposite sex) it’s good practice for when you DO see a cute guy you want to talk to. Asking generic questions is a good way to start a conversation and once you’re talking to someone… who knows??? Here are some ideas:
“that cocktail looks good, what is it…?”
“did you catch the score of the Yankees game?”
“have you tried the food here, is it any good?”
“I’m not familiar with this part of town, can you tell where XXX is?”

Don’t worry if he’s “taken”
I have a friend, she is super-paranoid about hitting on a married guy, since not all guys wear rings. Pssst — married guys are allowed to talk. I went out one night & met a great guy (who was HAPPILY married), we chatted for hours, had fun & traded contact info. He ended up setting me up with his single buddy…. it didn’t work out, but STILL. The person you meet might not be single — but I guarantee they know someone who is.

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